Bedtime and Babysitting
So many babysitters love and hate bedtime when they are caring for children. They love it because then the bulk of the work is done and they can relax the rest of the night. But, they also hate it because most children refuse to go quietly. They throw fits, beg & plead, try to strike bargains, and sometimes just flat out refuse to go to bed.
Sitters can greatly improve their chances of having the children go off to bed without much of a fuss by trying these simple ideas.
- Clarify with parents what “bedtime is 8:00″ actually means. Do they mean you should start the bedtime routine at 8:00 or do they want their children’s heads on their pillows at 8:00?
- Start bedtime routines early. Find blankies or other security items soon after you arrive and leave them in the child’s bed so that there isn’t an hour of “search and rescue” at bedtime.
- Avoid playing games or engaging in activities right before bed that gets the children’s adrenaline pumping. Stick to activities like doing puzzles, reading books, or drawing pictures right before bed.
- Remember that going to bed is not an option. But, what they do before they go to sleep can be. If the parents want their children’s heads on their pillows at 8:00, they get them into their beds by 7:45 and let them choose what they want to do until 8:00. Give them the options like read or look at books, play with a doll or stuffed animal, or even listen to music or recorded stories. Some parents allow handheld games in bed as well. But you should try to avoid this option because children often have trouble stopping the game when told to do so. There may be another whole set of objections. For instance, “I’m right in the middle of a game,” or I need to complete this level,” or “If I stop it now I can’t save my game and I’ll have to start all over again tomorrow.”
Remember that bedtime is not an option, and giving in to pleading to stay up later will just reinforce the behavior of begging to stay up every time you babysit that same child. Sticking to bedtime routines and times will make getting children off to bed easier and almost effortless each time you babysit.














December 14th, 2009 at 10:48 am
Avoiding playing games that will make children more awake and wild could be the key of helping kids get ready for bed.
I have a nephew that needs help to wind down and get ready for bed. If you wrestle with him at 8:30 and his bed time is 9:00 he will not be able to go to bed.
December 14th, 2009 at 11:41 am
Lisa,
I like the idea of givimg options and a deadline for bedtime. Great way to reinforce a good habit.
Lynn Lane
Success Strategies For Life
December 15th, 2009 at 4:13 pm
Your attention to details always amazes me. I can use these great tips with my kids.
Jose Escalante
Business Marketing Small
December 17th, 2009 at 5:44 am
Lisa,
Rountine, deadlines, clarifications and setting up expectations are all good tips you give us.
Another good article from the Babysitting Queen!
John Ho
Numerology Expert Helps Understanding Personality for Better Influence & Persuasion
December 17th, 2009 at 7:37 pm
Hi Lisa
Some excellent tips for babysitters and parents.
Handheld games are a definite no-no before bed…and don’t be suckered by the “I can’t save the game until I get to the next level” excuse!
Martin Wright
Impact, Poise, Presenting
December 21st, 2009 at 5:35 pm
Great points for babysitting
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Single Boomer Dating Expert
December 26th, 2009 at 10:45 pm
Hi Babysitting Lady,
Yes, establishing and keeping to a clear bedtime is always a good thing with children and is best when the boundary habit first comes from the parents. It is always easy to get kids to go to bed at their bedtime when that is already the communicated and established habit coming from the parents. However, when they themselves never maintain the time with the children, it certainly makes it more of a challenge for the sitter and the sitter seems “mean” to be keeping them to it when their own parents do not.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Single Boomer Dating Expert
January 6th, 2010 at 12:08 am
These are some great ideas for what can often be a difficult time.I remember arguing with my babysitters when I was a child.
Steve
January 11th, 2010 at 11:31 am
Wonderful ideas Lisa. Your experience and intuition shows!
Anthony
http://www.functionalzen.com